I take a moment of reflection to touch an issue that is dear to me: politeness. In our early twenty-first century, I find that the formulas of politeness and social conventions fade quickly to replace a world which have adopted a culture of "fast food". I want indicator for the people that I frequent, which, despite all their qualities, sometimes exasperate me beyond words sometimes being downright moved in the way they act. I try to be as courteous as possible when I have to speak to someone, because for me it's a mark of respect that is willing to contact us to benefit from its presence . Obviously I do not pretend to be a role model in this regard.
Let me take a moment to let you know the little things in life that make me rage inside, but where there is not a good idea to criticize sharply: The cursed
• Cell: being the holder of this diabolical invention, I try to channel my frustration when the vibration of this machine is integrated in my communication with others . I know nothing more annoying than being forced to cut my conversation with a person to answer his damn phone, without having the decency to apologize. I think the most basic politeness order to ask the other person: "Excuse me, do you mind if I answer? "If is not a professional context. How many times do I have advised my vis-à-vis at a dinner at the restaurant the next time the bell, I leave the place because it seems to have no desire to deal with someone who n is not physically with us. Although I consider myself to calm compared to my extreme reactions of a not so distant past, the fact remains that the cell is a major irritant in our modern world.
• Electronic communications without the formalities: is it so difficult to write a personalized greeting before getting to the heart of a subject? Without being fussy, is that writing "hello-so", "hello" or more informally "cuckoo" is a difficult task to perform? Can we, before releasing a new, take the time to inquire about the status of his interlocutor? Asking "how are you" is a barrier to efficient communication? When writing a personal email, the opening of the end ("the pleasure of seeing you soon", "pending news of you," "greetings", etc..) Is taking so long to write? Moreover, in Is he just sign his email, when most of the time, we all have an electronic signature?
• In general, during the telephone interviews, the standard of urban places in North America seems to be:
1. Opening sentence ("Yes, hello!)
2. Application ("Hello, may I speak to so and so")
3. Response to Request ("himself", "a moment I'll see if available)
4. Conversation with the person to join
5. Salutation ("goodbye", "hello", "soon")
It seems to me that during my recent calls, almost all these rules of decorum have been broken. I sometimes wonder if it is a lack of social skills societal point of view or if it is I who lives with a standard courtesy of another century. Sometimes I even enjoy talking to a secretary or any officer being required to meet these standards and that I find immediately the conversation more friendly.
In my family, these standards are important and whatever the mode of communication, respect for the speaker remains a priority. I do not pretend to have the secret of propriety (it does not take much): I especially tend to speak up during heated exchanges, I often cut my interlocutors and I am forced to bite my tongue repeatedly to avoid becoming a speaker. However, I understand the use of red is an effective way to clarify the discussions we have with our surroundings.
It seems to me that I am often you when I felt frustrated over this issue. My blog seems to be a great place to share our vision of politeness, social norms and manners. I would appreciate the views of my readers in this regard, if you're good enough to be good enough to write.
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